{"id":297,"date":"2017-06-05T16:46:24","date_gmt":"2017-06-05T16:46:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/?p=297"},"modified":"2017-06-05T16:51:30","modified_gmt":"2017-06-05T16:51:30","slug":"simple-answer-to-ubiquitous-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/simple-answer-to-ubiquitous-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"Simple answer to ubiquitous problem"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m not a fan of one-size-fits-all psychology. \u00a0People are much more complicated critters than as depicted in the self-help literature. \u00a0The stern, almost thug-like, cold, martinet of a father is a source of\u00a0necessary and even comforting clarity one son; another son experiences this same father as\u00a0neglectful, frightening, inhibiting, and destructive. \u00a0 The first son grows up supported, guided, strong, focused; the second grows up timid, constricted, deprived of his natural power which would have to be rediscovered, probably in therapy. \u00a0 \u00a0So: \u00a0&#8220;Spare the rod and spoil the child&#8221; or &#8220;Let your child find his way&#8221;? \u00a0 Answer: \u00a0It depends on the kid and his experience of that father.<\/p>\n<p>Having said all that, occasionally simple answers do fit all. \u00a0Here&#8217;s one:<\/p>\n<p><iframe width=\"640\" height=\"480\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/WXOjYU3j-Xg?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I&#8217;m not a fan of one-size-fits-all psychology. \u00a0People are much more complicated critters than as depicted in the self-help literature. \u00a0The stern, almost thug-like, cold, martinet of a father is a source of\u00a0necessary and even comforting clarity one son; another &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/simple-answer-to-ubiquitous-problem\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=297"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":299,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/297\/revisions\/299"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=297"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=297"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.aboutpsychotherapy.com\/aboutpsych-blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=297"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}