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I usually post about psychology and psychotherapy of course, but this was irresistible.  Remember I said on the home page that exploring what we humans do and are “in all our glory and silliness, is for me great adventure and … Continue reading →

“Stop Lying:…” is now an audio book.  You can buy it – and probably listen to a sample first – here.   It’s also on iTunes and soon to be at Barnes & Noble.  (And may I take a moment to … Continue reading →

A professor of psychology astoundingly claimed in the Washington Post that psychotherapy doesn’t work, despite all the research proving it does.   I wrote a rebuttal and the Post printed it.  This is important stuff at any time, but especially now … Continue reading →

On this peaceful Sunday morning New York City, here’s what’s happening.  About 50 dead and another 40 hospitalized after a mass shooting in New Zealand.  The act was committed by a white supremacist, someone anxious and infuriated by the encroaching … Continue reading →

Even experienced patients feel that twinge of anxiety at the start of a session – sometimes more than a twinge – wondering how to begin. The answer is simple: Start where you’re truly at, even if it’s last night’s ball … Continue reading →

Now that the American Psychological Association put out a guide for treating men, there has been the usual tiresome and depressing outcry from people on all sides of the issue, mostly misquoting the published guide.  Rampant in our times!  I … Continue reading →

New York Times published this letter from me.  As in my book, I find myself again writing to the theme of catch the lies – in this case identify your goals – and you calm or end the conflict, internal or … Continue reading →

I’m posting this short article because to paraphrase Clinton back in the day “it’s the psychology, stupid”.  Ok, he said “economy” but it’s the thought that counts, and that thought is this:  Psychology is behind what we do.   Money, turf, … Continue reading →

American Scholar published a letter I wrote addressing what I believe is a very serious threat – in fact the threat – to any discussion between friends, public debate, or personal growth.  No kidding.  You can find the letter here so … Continue reading →

Letter I sent to the Washington Post in response to one of their columns – who knew they’d print it!  It touches on something we often have to address in psychotherapy, gently and when the time is right. https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/we-keep-falling-for-politicians-we-know-wont-keep-their-promises/2018/05/23/d5c3ca30-5d29-11e8-b656-236c6214ef01_story.html?utm_term=.08969dc2b26a   … Continue reading →