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Common mistake: Don’t diagnose yourself

This is a very common problem in psychotherapy.  There was a recent heartbreaking article in the New York Times which showed the dangers of it.  The article is linked below.  The Times published my response to it which I reproduce … Continue reading

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why comedy is dead

I usually post about psychology and psychotherapy of course, but this was irresistible.  Remember I said on the home page that exploring what we humans do and are “in all our glory and silliness, is for me great adventure and … Continue reading

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audio book now available

“Stop Lying:…” is now an audio book.  You can buy it – and probably listen to a sample first – here.   It’s also on iTunes and soon to be at Barnes & Noble.  (And may I take a moment to … Continue reading

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psychotherapy attacked from within profession – fake news!

A professor of psychology astoundingly claimed in the Washington Post that psychotherapy doesn’t work, despite all the research proving it does.   I wrote a rebuttal and the Post printed it.  This is important stuff at any time, but especially now … Continue reading

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A cure. Not easy, but this simple?

On this peaceful Sunday morning New York City, here’s what’s happening.  About 50 dead and another 40 hospitalized after a mass shooting in New Zealand.  The act was committed by a white supremacist, someone anxious and infuriated by the encroaching … Continue reading

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How to start a session.

Even experienced patients feel that twinge of anxiety at the start of a session – sometimes more than a twinge – wondering how to begin. The answer is simple: Start where you’re truly at, even if it’s last night’s ball … Continue reading

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APA new guide for treating men, and the usual fallout

Now that the American Psychological Association put out a guide for treating men, there has been the usual tiresome and depressing outcry from people on all sides of the issue, mostly misquoting the published guide.  Rampant in our times!  I … Continue reading

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being a parent – and don’t lie about it

New York Times published this letter from me.  As in my book, I find myself again writing to the theme of catch the lies – in this case identify your goals – and you calm or end the conflict, internal or … Continue reading

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globalism, tribalism, trump, and yes it’s about psychology

I’m posting this short article because to paraphrase Clinton back in the day “it’s the psychology, stupid”.  Ok, he said “economy” but it’s the thought that counts, and that thought is this:  Psychology is behind what we do.   Money, turf, … Continue reading

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Avoiding reality

American Scholar published a letter I wrote addressing what I believe is a very serious threat – in fact the threat – to any discussion between friends, public debate, or personal growth.  No kidding.  You can find the letter here so … Continue reading

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